Hello my fellow awesome readers,
I actually had this post on draft mode since 3/2016! I never came around to finishing it and posting it. I just came across it today and thought this was actually really good information for my single readers and those that are preparing to marry. I hope you enjoy it!.
To marry or not to marry? That is the question…..
The question that way too many Christians get pressured about. So, when’s the wedding? So, when are you getting married? Are wedding plans in the making? Will you get married soon? Time to put a ring on it! Huh? So why is our culture so obsessed with this topic?
Don’t worry you are not alone. I also was pressured into this as well. It’s like I couldn’t go to one gathering without people asking me when I was getting married. Whether I was in a relationship or not. It became borderline annoying at a certain point. Why should I have to follow the trend? Why can’t I just enjoy my singlehood without the pressure of thinking about marriage (at that time I was single)? Don’t get me wrong I do desire to marry one day but for the time being I am okay.
I strongly believe you should be prepared before walking into a marriage both spiritually and materialistically. With that said I have created a little list of questions that I believe everyone should answer before considering marriage and all that is to follow:
- What are your intentions with getting married/ what is your motivation?
- Do you feel like you have truly given God your all in your singlehood?
- Are you financially stable to sustain a marriage?
- Do you really understand what a holy marriage is? (biblically and in all aspects?)
- Are you following a trend or do you really feel led by God to do so?
Now that we have that all figured out let’s move on! Let’s say you checked all your answers above and they all align. What next? My advice would be to seek marriage counseling from your Pastors. This is a huge help when you dive into marriage or just simply preparing to marry. If you are still single I would recommend really enjoying this season in your life and doing the most for God.
I know, I know, I know! You are tired of hearing married people tell you to enjoy this season. But if we are telling you this it is for a reason! I have been there and went through that same desert. Don’t worry! God’s timing is perfect. Don’t trade His promises for something else just because you were impatient. I am so glad I went through all my deserts and experiences because I am now happily married with the love of my life! He was worth the wait! When I think about all my experiences I thank God I listened to His voice and I thank God that He intervened many times. Be encouraged! Nothing is greater than being in His will at the exact moment He designated for you.
“I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.”
1 Corinthians 7:32-35
Sincerely,
Eli<3
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